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Have you ever been mid-argument and suddenly thought, Oh no… I sound exactly like my mom? Or maybe you shut down and realized, Wow. That was my dad 100%?

If you’ve been with your partner for 10, 15, 20 years, you already know this: most of your repeat conflicts aren’t just about dishes, schedules, or tone of voice. They’re about old survival strategies running quietly in the background.

In this episode, we’re talking about how to break generational cycles in your relationship—without blaming your parents, shaming yourself, or pretending it’s not happening. Because for high-achieving couples who want a long-term, deeply connected partnership, this work isn’t optional. It’s foundational.

You’ll learn:

• The difference between your wounded child and adaptive child—and why it matters in conflict
• How inherited family roles silently shape your marriage
• Why healthy couples still experience disharmony (and what they do differently)
• Three practical steps you can use this week to start updating your “relationship software”

Breaking generational patterns doesn’t mean becoming perfect. It means becoming conscious. It means recognizing when 10-year-old you is driving the conversation—and choosing differently.

If this resonates, don’t miss my upcoming masterclass where we’ll go deeper into recognizing and rewriting these inherited patterns together. 

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