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What happens when you’re doing all the work in your relationship—and your partner just… isn’t?

In this Dear Katie episode of Relationship Reset, Katie reads a powerful letter from a listener who has been carrying the emotional, mental, and relational load for years. She’s been in therapy. She’s done the reflection. She’s managed the family system. Meanwhile, her husband’s untreated, long-term depression has left her feeling lonely, exhausted, and quietly terrified of one question: What if I keep growing and my partner doesn’t?

If you’ve ever wondered how much longer you can hold everything together on your own, this episode is for you.

Katie breaks down one of the most painful dynamics high-achieving couples face: when one partner is deeply invested in personal growth and emotional health, while the other is stuck in survival mode. She explains why you can’t love someone into therapy, why pressure doesn’t create change, and how depression quietly shapes beliefs like “life is just meant to be hard.”

Most importantly, Katie gets practical. You’ll learn:

• What is and isn’t actually in your control
• How to stop carrying the relationship alone without blowing it up
• Why boundaries inspire more change than pushing ever will
• A simple sentence that can start shifting the dynamic immediately

This episode isn’t about giving up hope—it’s about pairing hope with clarity, boundaries, and self-respect.

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